Adversity, strength, and love

Adversity, strength, and love

Some years ago I wrote this letter to an intern of mine who had been hospitalized three times for mania related to bipolar disorder and struggling to deal with clients suffering from similarly debilitating conditions. With the intern’s permission, I am...
How to start therapy on the right foot

How to start therapy on the right foot

The decision to start therapy may well be the most important one you ever make. It could mean the difference between a satisfying, fulfilled, and meaningful life or one characterized by despair, dejection, and defeat. A successful experience in therapy doesn’t just...
Would you really rather be happy than right?

Would you really rather be happy than right?

When a couple is caught up in endless bickering, one of the stock responses of a therapist is to ask, ‘would you rather be right, or be happy?’. The response is supposed to be, and usually is, ‘I’d rather be happy, obviously’. The practical importance of this insight...
Truth and Understanding

Truth and Understanding

Perhaps you are wondering which of the thousands of psychologists, counselors or therapists you should choose. Before you try to make a decision, ask yourself a more fundamental question: why do you need a psychologist at all? Psychology is not secret knowledge. If...
Can I Be Happy?

Can I Be Happy?

More Americans are seeing a therapist than ever before, and yet rates of unhappiness have never been higher. Perhaps it’s time for a different approach. Striving to be happy Aristotle, who thought more about the meaning of happiness than perhaps anyone before...
Psychotherapy: Pick Your Poison

Psychotherapy: Pick Your Poison

Have you ever felt like you have been pushed up against a wall and there is no escape? Sometimes life takes an unexpected turn or the inevitable happens and you have to face the music, but you don’t have the resilience to deal with it. Our jobs or relationships...